How supportive do I have to be?

Well number one I heard back from my supervisor, but she hasnt been able to talk to the others yet.

Number two. I am now in tears. How supportive do I have to be before I see something back? Once again steves band and work life is taking presidence over me. Back track to May of this year, we went to the Kentucky Derby at my local track. and I found out, the race I had been lobbying for with others for years was about to happen in August. An arabians stakes race, one time only. I found out the day, and told steve to make sure he got it off from work. I than proceeded to remind him weekly from May-Aug. the week before the race, I once again asked "Did you take this coming saturday off work?" he stared at me with a blank stare. I reminded him once again that there was a very important race he had to go with me to. He cursed. and said no i didnt get the day off. At this point it was of course to late to get it off. I was fumeing, but i let it go. I ended up not going. i heard it was a great race. So in turn Steve promised he would attend the cat show i have planned with me. Sept 24th. he actually took the day of work already. and I was pleased. I am going to need another hand at the show to help me hold the kitties. And just generaly be supportive. I told him to make sure he told the band members and everyone else he was BUSY that day and could not do anything. I needed him all day.....and than today.....we get this message..

"the guys at the 318 in excelsior want you to play on saturday sept 24th. here's the thing--that show at station 4 is the wed right before that, we haven't committed to it yet.

it's probably not a good idea to have two shows so close together, because one or the other will suffer in attendance. so--would you rather play acoustic on saturday night at the 318, or plugged in on a wednesday night in downtown st. paul? "

I reply back kindly, "
Well Steve is commited to an all day cat show on the 24 if that makes a diffrence..and hes not getting out of it no matter what! hes missed out on a couple other important things..and I need his hands to help with the kitties lol"

And get this back, "it's at night though, can he be released for the evening? darril and chris would prefer to play on a saturday night. "


I informed steve of this and he got all bent out of shape. Saying not to get mad at him he didnt know about it..yada yada bla bla yack. I was never mad at him til he started acting like that. If the cats do well we will be there late. And when the band plays they usually have to load in and sound check around 5 or 6 pm. There is no way he would be done with helping me by than. check in is at 7:30 in the morning-finals finals could be anywhere from 6-8pm at night. depending on how it all goes. Than of course you have to tear everything down, and bring the kids back home make sure they are settled in.

He says he can do both. I know he cant. I know if he did, he would be rushing me and making me do stuff so he could get to his gig faster. I do not ask for much. I dont I never have stuff to do thats really important to me. So it upsets me so much..

He says he will call and talk to the guys. I already know...what happens when he does that. He will be calling me and telling me he can do both. Which i know he cant. we will end up taking two cars which will be more spendy. I will be left with the car that has no brakes. Because he needs the big car to carry his stuff. Bare in mind I will have four cat carriers, and all their stuff. Hows that going to work?

So how long do i have to be the super supprotive one? How long do I have to put everything I WANT aside. As it stands, right now. I will just be not sending in my show forms. And wont even be going to the show.